In my teachings, I often speak about personal power, and how so often, we give our power away to others. We can do this when we drop into habits and modes such as “people-pleasing,””hero,” being overly compassionate, convincing ourselves we are just empaths and that’s the way it is so we get confused, frustrated or burnt out, giving continuously without receiving, allowing people, places, things or situations to have negative impact on us, failing to give ourselves time for rest, saying yes too much, keeping ourselves in a constant state of “doing,” to feel good about who we are, and allowing ourselves to become overly stressed, just to name a few. We often are left feeling depleted, used or used up, depressed, angry, paralyzed, numb or defeated. We lose confidence, patience, self-love, self-compassion and at times tolerance.
What can we do about it? First, I suggest using the following affirmation as often as needed:
“All the power I have given away, either consciously or unconsciously, all the power I have given away either knowingly or unknowingly, all the power I have given away willingly or unwillingly, return to me now. All the power that has been taken from me either consciously or unconsciously, all the power that has been taken from me either consciously or unconsciously, all the power that has been taken from me knowingly or unknowingly, all the power that has been taken from me willingly or unwillingly, return to me now! You are MY Power. You Belong With Me and to Me. I need you now! Return to me at once! Others have their own power…they don’t need mine! I can be helpful without giving my power away. I can care without giving my power away. I can love without giving my power away. I open my heart, mind and soul and i welcome my power home, where it belongs!
We can also start becoming more introspective of our triggers and becoming mindful of when and where we habitually give our power away. Those who seek it out seem to be experts at finding their marks, so often it entails honing discernment and becoming the observer. Instead of always saying yes right away (even though it makes YOU feel good, is it really serving you or your ego), perhaps say, “let me think about it and get back to you.” Develop some courage and practice saying no. Remember, if we keep giving without receiving we will become like a sieve unable to contain water (life force energy). Examine what your own motivations are to see why you leak your own power to people, places, things and situations. Are your motivations at the deepest level self-serving in a way that do not truly benefit you but your own ego or pride? Once we notice our own participation in the “power dance,” we can responsibly shift and actually become more beneficial to ourselves and others. We can be of service when it is aligned with the highest good of all, and we can give without feeling used, depleted, taken advantage of, etc.
The day I took my power back, I recall feeling that shift…and I felt something I had never really felt before, because I was always giving it away, leaking it out (my power, my love, my time, my energy, my compassion) without taking any in. When my power returned, I felt raw, strong, powerful energy enter my body and at first, as the feeling was so strong, I panicked! What was this? I could feel it in my heart, which was beating a little faster. I could feel it in my spine, which felt straighter and stronger. I even felt it in my gut, which after the initial impact, felt warm, glowing and confident. The energy came in like a flood, but then quickly calmed as I allowed its return. At the conclusion of the experience I knew without a shadow of a doubt, that I was never going to shy away from being my true, authentic self ever again. I would never let a bully get the advantage by using my own power against me. I would easily be able to have boundaries and maintain them. I could be firm but kind. I could kindly say no to others instead of always being the doormat, always being the one to rescue others from their own entangled stuff. I could say no to others asking for help without feeling guilt, shame or as if I was letting them down. I could say yes to me, and stand up for myself with the confidence that ME standing up for myself is powerful and often enough support in the physical realm.
The day I took my power back, it felt good, it felt right. I felt God in my heart, and I felt the Universe’s enduring patience with me finally pay off. I felt the atta-girl I had been seeking from others emanate from the realm of Spirit and from my Higher-Self. All was right, all was in divine right order, and I finally felt free. I finally felt like ME and I not only liked ME, I loved ME! I supported, cared for and enjoyed myself exactly the way I AM! Wow! It blew me away and that is why I share these words with you now.
I wish the same for you on your journey. Let the illusions that bind you loosen their grip on your perceived reality and may you find all you are looking for deep inside yourself and in Spirit. May you find you have always had the ability to manifest your dreams, your destiny and your true, pure, light-filled desires so that the highest and best transpires. I always think of Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz in these moments when she realizes she had the power to get back to Kansas all along. We all do! May your day and life be filled with miracles, love and Light!
Thanks Lisa!! I love it! So funny, I always think of Dorothy, as well, always having he power but not realizing it right away. I always wonder about all the power that I have that I haven’t learned to unlock just yet!
Lisa Saylan says
It takes time…I still have challenges and have to work diligently at it. Though there are times I just allow myself to take the bait…then spit it out right away when I realize what might follow. Its nice hearing your feedback. Have a blessed day!